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Well I am not sure what good this will do, as I am finding ways to repair this marriage, he is destroying it. Last night after I worked all day, took 100% care of the kids, made dinner and cleaned up with no help offered or given, then took my daughter to gymnastics, when I came home my husband was all showered and ready to go out. He never said he was going out. He said he was getting a drink with the neighbor. No problem. See you later. When he came home at nearly 1am (its a work night) I saw who he came home with, the neighbor, his wife, and the 18 year old bimbo down the street. So when he came in I said "did she go", he said "she went out with Nicole" ok did Nicole and she go with you guys, yep! To a strip club too. So not sure what any shared hobbies will do because his individual ones are what I would call cheating. Isn't that a date? He said that he did not know they were going and can't he have friends. He wanted to go with Jim so what's he supposed to do not go? Uh yeah... I see there is no reasoning with him, he's not the same person I met or knew for 20 years. I'm committed to giving the next 30 days my all, and I my all I think I mean back off and just give him space but take care of me and if there are no improvements or he does this again then at that point I'll ask him to leave. Unfortunately I have to take care of business and I think during that time I will talk to an attorney and have my ducks in a row. I don't deserve this and neither do my children. He spent zero time with them yesterday and this morning its nearly 10am, I know he has to be at work, he's sleeping it off. Who the heck is this guy? My husband was a great dad, not a drinker, and committed as heck. This is a stranger and I'm not sure I even want to be married to him.... the 30 days is for me as well. I'm mad now, and I've learned not to react or say anything in this state but if I feel the same way then I know its the right decision.