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hitrockbottom · 07-25-2008, 04:11 PM

Bad Guy -
Here is a little input from a me..I have the same situation...wife keeps saying "I don't Know" won't give me a direct answer.etc....

That emotional roller coaster your on will continue...your going to convince your self one day everything will work out, the next you set that it will fail...just have to learn to take things Day by Day.

I do agree that it is hard to work on things when your not @home. I was away for about 3weeks. Then when I did move back in I lived in the basement. Even though you did were in the wrong, it doesn't mean that she has the right to treat you like a doormat.

Eventually I told my wife, I am leaving for 3 days(weekend) when I come back I will be in my house, in my bed, and in my room. I came back moved everything back into my room.

She said fine she will sleep n the basement. I said Ok...didn't show her that it bothered me. I agreed with her feelings w/o argueing. I didn't let her take anything of comfort (IE...the fan, Ihome, Ipod) any thing she was used to having to sleep. I said that it belonged in the room. I wanted her to see that the 3weeks I gave to her, the three weeks I respected her space, how uncomfortable it was.
The next day she was back in the room.

Not saying thats what you need to do verbatim but "maybe" you need to give her a time frame.

07-25-2008, 04:11 PM	#28 (permalink)
hitrockbottom Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 177	Re: Trying to keep my marriage together! Bad Guy - Here is a little input from a me..I have the same situation...wife keeps saying "I don't Know" won't give me a direct answer.etc.... That emotional roller coaster your on will continue...your going to convince your self one day everything will work out, the next you set that it will fail...just have to learn to take things Day by Day. I do agree that it is hard to work on things when your not @home. I was away for about 3weeks. Then when I did move back in I lived in the basement. Even though you did were in the wrong, it doesn't mean that she has the right to treat you like a doormat. Eventually I told my wife, I am leaving for 3 days(weekend) when I come back I will be in my house, in my bed, and in my room. I came back moved everything back into my room. She said fine she will sleep n the basement. I said Ok...didn't show her that it bothered me. I agreed with her feelings w/o argueing. I didn't let her take anything of comfort (IE...the fan, Ihome, Ipod) any thing she was used to having to sleep. I said that it belonged in the room. I wanted her to see that the 3weeks I gave to her, the three weeks I respected her space, how uncomfortable it was. The next day she was back in the room. Not saying thats what you need to do verbatim but "maybe" you need to give her a time frame. Last edited by hitrockbottom; 07-25-2008 at 05:26 PM.