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This is just a little thing I've been mentioning on a few of the threads I have contributed to. Please remember that while there is an abundance of useful information and people on this forum, each situation is different. There are many views and opinions about what someone should and shouldn't do in a given situation. Sometimes the opinions are at odds. So, please understand that many of the people on this forum are not professionals. I truly believe we must each assess our personal situations and make the best decisions we can. Just because I might make a suggestion doesn't mean it should be put into action. This is something I'm sure you know, appreciate and understand. But when a person is desparate it can be easy to be influenced without first giving your plan of action some clear and meaningful reflection.

For instance, Hitrockbottom gave his wife a time frame and it benefited his situation. I tried to give my wife some time frames and it pushed her further away to the point she settled on getting a divorce. Had I been too rigid on the time frames I expect we would no longer be together today. Only after I retracted any time frames and gave her as much time as she needed did she start to reconsider. She is again unsure of what she wants. This is an improvement compared to her previous decision that divorce is the only answer.

Bad Guy, my very best to you and yours. Keep up the good work. Not all of the troubled marriages we read about on this forum will survive. But I truly believe that your hard work will show and your wife will see it. When this happens I hope she will be accepting of it.

Blind