I agree, I will consult an attorney then ask him to leave. His answer to that question is more "I'm trying to fix what's wrong with me". He does realizes something is going on in his own head but that doesn't help when he does something stupid like this or just kind of acts indifferent. Alimony won't be an issue but I think at this point with him acting like this I should be primary custody and child support will be an issue. I'll need that for them so they don't have to have a lifestyle change (karate, dance, etc.).
I have a horrible thought (my imagination is now running away but I may not be far off) my neighbors lifestyle...well they have admitted to doing some swinging (yeah they have 3 kids). This is NOT something I'd ever consider and my husband knows it. I didn't think he would either but like I said I don't know him anymore. The 18 year old is very open about being bisexual and my neighbor's husband told me the girls were having a physical relationship. So if he is going out with them (and he knows all this) is it due to maybe wanting to experiment and I'm not a willing partner....Dunno but I think its a real possibility. By the way, neither girl is all that attractive. The young girl is slender built like a boy, very plain face, and zero personality (ok so I'm not objective but she's such a downer) the wife of the neighbor awhile ago my husband described as "weird looking". He doesn't seem to see her that way anymore so I got to thinking....
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Originally Posted by 827Aug
I know how you feel; I'm right there with you. You need to check with a lawyer before you leave. Make sure you have all of your ducks in a row before exiting. That's hard to do--I know!
That's interesting you're getting "I'm trying" too. That must be a universal guy line! Every time I get that line, I have to ask, "What exactly are you trying to do? Are you trying to finish destroying this marriage? Are you trying to be more descret with your dates?" I' m just sick of it!
At least in your case, you have the money. I could be fighting over alimony for years!
My new counselor has helped me to see one thing though. When a man is having an affair, it makes him feel good. The wife ,on the other hand, is the voice of reality and responsibility. At least this is how it is in my case. In his mind the mistress is good and the wife is bad. Therefore, the counselor told me not to even try reasoning with him. She said it is a complete waste of time and I'm only hurting myself more.
Good luck and keep us posted!
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