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I do not think it would be in your best interest to remain with a man who from what you say is already abusive. I say abusive because there are many forms of abuse and verbal abuse is one of them. Verbal abuse has lasting affects for those who receive it, I'm going to guess your daughter may be one of them.
I came from a verbally abusive home. It eats away at all of your self-esteem and subconciously makes you believe you won't ever find anything better or deserve anything. Why should you make sure your husband gets a date?? This is not your job, his happiness is not your concern if he never worried about your happiness and it's definitely not your job to make him happy if you want to leave. What is your concern is your daughter's happiness. I personally believe you need to keep her out of this. If she believes your leaving has something to do with her telling you to leave, she could feel guilty about it later no matter how bad she and your husband's relationship is. If you need someone to support you, talk honestly with your family-siblings, parents, cousins-who are adults and will support you. If you can't find that support within your family, look towards counseling, which I'm guessing you've had some part of already since you took the meds. I would ask my daughter how she feels or if she wants to talk about the situation but let her know, you are in charge, you are the parent, and its your decision and don't involve her in proving to family that your husband is a bad man.
If you are involved in a local church, you may want to look to them for financial help to get you started. I live in the country and have heard of the local churches helping people in tough situations get financial help through weekly donations. Even if you aren't involved in a church, it wouldn't help to talk with a minister, priest, whatever, at least you may get some good advice.