Kaine

I realy dont know how to say this but if he is realy willing to work on his habit/addiction and change himself for you would you see it?
an addiction is a hard thing to kick but it can be done..

the resone i say that is cause me and my wife are in the same boat as you 2 are but my addiction was porn and i can tell you right now if he has admited his problem then maybe he will be able to kick it. and it seems that my wife feels the same as you she is unsure weather to try or not but i am putting fourth the effort to try that she has shown me for so long and hopeing that she will see that i can change and invite me back in.

so you mite just need some time apart and see what happens.
and so you can see the big picture about what has been going around you..
another thing is has he cleared his mind to you or sat down with you and told you all the things hes done i know you probly dont want to here alot of it but if he can do that and from then on not lie to you any more. it would make it easyer for both of you..
I called my wife for coffee the other morning and we sat and talk then we whent to a park where i told her about every thing that ive done in my past and are past together and that was the milstone in me getting help for my problems and i feel better about my self because i know that was honest with my wife..
and it mite not be easy for him to do but if he realy wants to work things out this is the one thing that will make him or break him.... and i have to admit it was the harderest thing that Ive ever done but in the end i know that i have a duty to be honest to my wife and my self and you can not be honest to youself untill you are honest with those who care for you..and trust me when i tell you that what he is going to tell you will hurt and you probly dont want to here it but this one thing that he needs to do to kick his addiction.. if he wount do this then he will not be able to change or kick his addiction.