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1moretime · 07-26-2008, 11:25 AM

Thank you all for the replies.

I have talked with my daughter about it - she seems to be okay with it.

This is my husbands home town, he was born and raised here, so I cannot go to the church and ask for help. We have only been here for a few years and even though I am active in the community and have lots of friends, he is still one of theirs and they stick together. I have seen and felt it in other situations.

There is anger issues in his whole family. His parents would argue all the time and make each other feel guilty. His nephews have been divorced and his sons can't keep a woman. All for the same reason. It's anger, its I know better and its all about me.

I took my husband to counseling about 8 years ago. He went once and refused to go back. He said he doesn't need anyone bashing him. The counselor never said anything to him. We were there because of my depression and she was telling him about that. I found out later he has been a few times with his last divorce and said there were only out to get his money and didn't try to help him.

I have been networking, I should be employed by the end of August. I will be renting something on the school bus route for the next couple of years while my daughter is in school. During out last talk yesterday, I realize she needs to come with me - she needs to be comfortable in her home too. When her dad is not home - I do notice a good change in her.

He is afraid of losing everything again. He won't. He is afraid of what people are going to think. He is afraid of being alone. and he is afraid it will kill his father.

I will get out and start life over again and be happy. I guess I just need to know I am not being overly selfish and need some encouragement now and then.

07-26-2008, 11:25 AM	#5 (permalink)
1moretime Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2	Re: He won't accept that it's over Thank you all for the replies. I have talked with my daughter about it - she seems to be okay with it. This is my husbands home town, he was born and raised here, so I cannot go to the church and ask for help. We have only been here for a few years and even though I am active in the community and have lots of friends, he is still one of theirs and they stick together. I have seen and felt it in other situations. There is anger issues in his whole family. His parents would argue all the time and make each other feel guilty. His nephews have been divorced and his sons can't keep a woman. All for the same reason. It's anger, its I know better and its all about me. I took my husband to counseling about 8 years ago. He went once and refused to go back. He said he doesn't need anyone bashing him. The counselor never said anything to him. We were there because of my depression and she was telling him about that. I found out later he has been a few times with his last divorce and said there were only out to get his money and didn't try to help him. I have been networking, I should be employed by the end of August. I will be renting something on the school bus route for the next couple of years while my daughter is in school. During out last talk yesterday, I realize she needs to come with me - she needs to be comfortable in her home too. When her dad is not home - I do notice a good change in her. He is afraid of losing everything again. He won't. He is afraid of what people are going to think. He is afraid of being alone. and he is afraid it will kill his father. I will get out and start life over again and be happy. I guess I just need to know I am not being overly selfish and need some encouragement now and then.