I am in the exact same situation that you are in!! When I read your post I felt so relieved. Finally someone else in my predicament that knows how I feel. I met my husband in college and we started dating freshman year. I was attracted to him and we dated straight for about a year and a half. Thats when we started fighting and clashing. We broke up a few times during college for a few months at a time. I broke up with a boyfriend and then because I think I was afraid to be alone I got back together with my husband. We lived together first and then got married. I almost left him during the engagement many times because of his temper and not feeling love for him but I think I fooled myself into thinking it would get better after we got married. Things snowballed and we bought a house, got a dog and cat..etc... I don't feel that I love him and I don't know if I have for a long time. I don't feel like we have anything in common and also only make "small talk".
I really dont' know what to do, I hate the idea of divorce because he is such an awesome guy. He has a great job, great work ethic, is an awesome provider. He's handsome, attentive, affectionate. I don't know whats wrong with me that I don't love him and probably haven't in about 8 years. My family keeps telling me to go to counseling but we did that and it got better for a little while but only because I think I was pretending for his sake. He cries and cries when I talk about the possibility of divorce so it absolutely crushes me but I don't think I want to have children with him or spend the rest of my life with him. He deserves a wife that will reciprocate the level of love that he has for me. THis is killing me. I'm just wondering what you've done so far and if its worked to get the spark back and if anyone else has any advice for me.
