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Originally Posted by help2008
I still might give it a shot this week, but Im so sacred that she just doesnt want to be with me anymore and wont tell me. I'd do anything to stay with her, even just to be her room mate so I could be with her and my son. My heart has been shattered and then stomped on so much and I just dont know how long I can take it before something bad happens.
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I'm going to go out on a limb and say you would not be ok with being your wife's roommate. Maybe you want to be OK with it because you are so scared of losing her, but it sounds like you are extremely crushed by her actions and as you said, you think something bad will happen if you continue to live in this environment. You know what you want and expect from her but what can you do about it if you are so scared of losing her that you can't draw any boundaries? How could she be the love of your life? She lies to you, cheats on you, is emotionally and physically deceitful towards you. This is the love of your life? As painful as it is, I think you need to reexam who she is now, and not who she used to be or what you want her to be.
You are torn. You want her but you also want her to be someone else. You are afraid to set boundaries with her because you want her. But you resent her because of what she's done to you. You can't voice your resentment, however, because you dont want to push her away. You're going to have to chose to either start setting up consequences for her behavior or allow her to continue stomping on you to the point that "something bad happens." Just remember when that something bad does happen, it will be your child that innocently suffers.
-lj