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827Aug · 07-27-2008, 08:25 AM

Hi Help!

Your wife is cetainly confused about her sexuality. She really needs to work on that first. However, having said that, she is cheating on you. My husband has cheated on me and I recognize the "flags". The emotional disconnection is tough for the non-cheating spouse. At times you are willing to settle for less just to have that person in your life. Although my husband and I went to couple's counseling for awhile, we just weren't getting anywhere. Beginning this week my husband will start going to counseling alone. He has got to be the one to figure out why he cheated and is contiuing to distance himself from me. I can't do that for him. So, I think that's where your wife is. She needs counseling to figure out her issues. In the meantime, my counselor told me to just go about my daily business and not discuss "our problem" with him. She said dicussion and confrontation, at this point, will only drive him farther away. That may be the approach you should use.

Good luck and keep us posted!

07-27-2008, 08:25 AM	#3 (permalink)
827Aug Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Southern USA Posts: 258	Re: I have noone to talk too Hi Help! Your wife is cetainly confused about her sexuality. She really needs to work on that first. However, having said that, she is cheating on you. My husband has cheated on me and I recognize the "flags". The emotional disconnection is tough for the non-cheating spouse. At times you are willing to settle for less just to have that person in your life. Although my husband and I went to couple's counseling for awhile, we just weren't getting anywhere. Beginning this week my husband will start going to counseling alone. He has got to be the one to figure out why he cheated and is contiuing to distance himself from me. I can't do that for him. So, I think that's where your wife is. She needs counseling to figure out her issues. In the meantime, my counselor told me to just go about my daily business and not discuss "our problem" with him. She said dicussion and confrontation, at this point, will only drive him farther away. That may be the approach you should use. Good luck and keep us posted!