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I don't know what advice I can offer but I can tell you I emphathize with having no one to talk to. My husband is distancing himself he doesn't know why. I think emotionally he actually can't handle fixing our relationship right now. In our case he has not had an affair that I know of but a friendship with an 18 year old girl that is not proper. It hurts me and he continues and she's 23 years younger. Its just weird and I could relate where you said being like the third wheel. I've found a lot of comfort in coming here and talking to people so I hope that helps you too. If I were to offer any advice, I think it sounds like you need to leave her be to figure out what she wants and meanwhile pick up the pieces of your life. This is advice I absolutely need to follow and am committed to doing right now myself. The more I push, the further I pushed away. When I backed off, things were actually healing then today I screwed them up by pushing. Choose me or don't. Well he wasn't ready to choose and now he just wants to check out. You have the added issue about her confusion on her sexuality. It sounds like you could both benefit with counseling, just like us. I did manage to get my husband to begin counseling on his own, that starts this week. I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope that you and your wife will be able to repair this relationship.