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stumped · 07-27-2008, 09:52 PM

So this weekend has been interesting and I guess one way or the other a decision will eventually be made.......

Friday he called me at work a couple times mostly just to say hi or to ask me to do something he could very well have done himself. He asked me two different times what my plans were for the night....I told him I didnt have anything solid nailed down. He told me what he was doing and said "ok well call me later". I never called him and when I got home around midnight he was in his room with the door closed I assume he was asleep.

Saturday morning he came in my room (we still share a bathroom and closet for the time being) and showered and got dressed...we talked for a few minutes and then he said he was going to go run some errands. I did some stuff around the house...cleaned (cleaned up but didnt clean up after him) hung a picture and a shelf...he came home a little while later and teased me (all just joking around even called me baby) about the shelf it was a little crooked so he fixed it for me. A freind came over with her kids for him to do something for her (car related) after they left I called one of our mutual friends and ended up heading over there to hang out. Later that night friends husband called him and asked him to come hang out so he did. He pulled up a chair next to me and sat next to me. We left about 12:30 came home went to our rooms and went to bed.

Sunday I got up...he was awake so I went in his room layed on his bed with him and we talked for a little bit (no contact) watched the last 45 minutes of a movie then he got in the shower. I showered...then I came down and said I was going to make some breakfast would he like some as well. I started making breakfast realized we were out of milk (I just wanted it to drink) and asked him to run out and grab some...he did as well as grab a few other things he thought we needed. We ate breakfast...then I left to go to a friends (this was about noon) just got home at 9ish...he isnt here havent talked to him since I left this morning. I think I am just going to go to my room and shut the door so I am not in the living room when he comes home...see how he likes it. Might not be the most mature thing but I guess he needs to get used to living without me and me living without him.

Still sooo confused!!!

07-27-2008, 09:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
stumped Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 150	Re: How do you know when you have done all you can do? So this weekend has been interesting and I guess one way or the other a decision will eventually be made....... Friday he called me at work a couple times mostly just to say hi or to ask me to do something he could very well have done himself. He asked me two different times what my plans were for the night....I told him I didnt have anything solid nailed down. He told me what he was doing and said "ok well call me later". I never called him and when I got home around midnight he was in his room with the door closed I assume he was asleep. Saturday morning he came in my room (we still share a bathroom and closet for the time being) and showered and got dressed...we talked for a few minutes and then he said he was going to go run some errands. I did some stuff around the house...cleaned (cleaned up but didnt clean up after him) hung a picture and a shelf...he came home a little while later and teased me (all just joking around even called me baby) about the shelf it was a little crooked so he fixed it for me. A freind came over with her kids for him to do something for her (car related) after they left I called one of our mutual friends and ended up heading over there to hang out. Later that night friends husband called him and asked him to come hang out so he did. He pulled up a chair next to me and sat next to me. We left about 12:30 came home went to our rooms and went to bed. Sunday I got up...he was awake so I went in his room layed on his bed with him and we talked for a little bit (no contact) watched the last 45 minutes of a movie then he got in the shower. I showered...then I came down and said I was going to make some breakfast would he like some as well. I started making breakfast realized we were out of milk (I just wanted it to drink) and asked him to run out and grab some...he did as well as grab a few other things he thought we needed. We ate breakfast...then I left to go to a friends (this was about noon) just got home at 9ish...he isnt here havent talked to him since I left this morning. I think I am just going to go to my room and shut the door so I am not in the living room when he comes home...see how he likes it. Might not be the most mature thing but I guess he needs to get used to living without me and me living without him. Still sooo confused!!!