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help2008 · 07-27-2008, 11:43 PM

Thanks a bunch guys, its good to get this off my chest. I've decided to look into counceling and see if I can get my wife to join me. I already got some resistance to it from her by her making quick excuses.
When she came back home the other night she seemed to be in a great mood. She left needing space and to talk to her sister about our problems. When she came back she greeted me with hugs and kisses and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner. So ofcourse I went because I want to be with her as much as possible and I hadn't ate all day. Dinner went well and afterward at home our love making was great.
I think I understand that she needs her space and that I may be able to give her that space even while still living with her. I also am going to be focusing on making myself a better person. My wife has even mentioned this to me. I figure that if I pay alittle less attention to her and more on myself, it would be better for all parties.
I did send an e-mail to the other girl, in attempt to be nice and not cause any problems. I explained that I understood friendship but that thats all she should have with my wife. I also attempted to befriend her so that possibly we all could get along. I just hate that my wife goes to her so much alone. I feel it would be nice that the 3 of us do things fun together and leave past events behind.
My wife as since told me that she just needed time to think about what she wanted out of life. She said that she realized that she wanted to be with me forever and would like to just get our lives going so we can get to our future goals. She wants to go to school for forensics and we want to move into a house in another city and have more kids. So I figure that if I lessen my attention towards her and focus on myself that things might workout better. I am even studing to take a state exam for a better job. She is at work now and ofcourse will probable talk with the other girl, so hopefully things will still be good in the morning. Again thank you all for your input and I'm sure I'll keep posting as things go.

07-27-2008, 11:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
help2008 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 5	Re: I have noone to talk too Thanks a bunch guys, its good to get this off my chest. I've decided to look into counceling and see if I can get my wife to join me. I already got some resistance to it from her by her making quick excuses. When she came back home the other night she seemed to be in a great mood. She left needing space and to talk to her sister about our problems. When she came back she greeted me with hugs and kisses and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner. So ofcourse I went because I want to be with her as much as possible and I hadn't ate all day. Dinner went well and afterward at home our love making was great. I think I understand that she needs her space and that I may be able to give her that space even while still living with her. I also am going to be focusing on making myself a better person. My wife has even mentioned this to me. I figure that if I pay alittle less attention to her and more on myself, it would be better for all parties. I did send an e-mail to the other girl, in attempt to be nice and not cause any problems. I explained that I understood friendship but that thats all she should have with my wife. I also attempted to befriend her so that possibly we all could get along. I just hate that my wife goes to her so much alone. I feel it would be nice that the 3 of us do things fun together and leave past events behind. My wife as since told me that she just needed time to think about what she wanted out of life. She said that she realized that she wanted to be with me forever and would like to just get our lives going so we can get to our future goals. She wants to go to school for forensics and we want to move into a house in another city and have more kids. So I figure that if I lessen my attention towards her and focus on myself that things might workout better. I am even studing to take a state exam for a better job. She is at work now and ofcourse will probable talk with the other girl, so hopefully things will still be good in the morning. Again thank you all for your input and I'm sure I'll keep posting as things go.