827Aug

I've been reading your post and I know exactly how you feel. In my case, my husband has been trying his best to distance our relationship (of 24 years) for two years now. I know he had an affair. He won't exactly admit to it, nor does he regret the state of our relationship. He moved out five months ago and began dating someone one month afterwards. He denied that too! Counseling was helping then--NOT!

My husband says not to make him decide--divorce or not divorce. He says he's not ready to make the decision. The counselor says not to back him into the corner. I'm not to ask him to decide. Well, I'm not getting any younger. How much longer do you sit in a holding pattern? The opportunity has now come up for me to go out with someone. Do I hold on to hope my husband will become himself again and we'll get our marriage fixed? I know what you mean about it feeling good to have someone show an interest in you and say positive things about you. It's just tough waiting out a decision. We did reach an agreement though. He did agree to go to weekly counseling sessions to work on his issues. Maybe that will help. Now, I'm faced with another decision--to date or not to date. It would be nice to go out and have a good time for a change!