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Deejo · 07-28-2008, 02:15 AM

AZMO, I struggle with the perception that the harder you try - the less likely you are to get the outcome you're looking for.
The dynamic of your relationship sounds similar to my own. We consistently share 'moments' of grace and love - but they just don't keep.

I am all for focusing tremendous energy and effort to salvage a damaged relationship. But, there comes a point where you need to honestly evaluate where you are, and determine if the energy and effort expended translates into a more positive, loving, and nurturing marriage. Can you count on your spouse being engaged in the process of reforging love and commitment? For how long? A year? A month? An afternoon?

Deep down, do you believe that you should let this thing go, or keep fighting to stay together - regardless of what 'together' may mean?

07-28-2008, 02:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
Deejo Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 109	Re: Pushing too hard...drove him away AZMO, I struggle with the perception that the harder you try - the less likely you are to get the outcome you're looking for. The dynamic of your relationship sounds similar to my own. We consistently share 'moments' of grace and love - but they just don't keep. I am all for focusing tremendous energy and effort to salvage a damaged relationship. But, there comes a point where you need to honestly evaluate where you are, and determine if the energy and effort expended translates into a more positive, loving, and nurturing marriage. Can you count on your spouse being engaged in the process of reforging love and commitment? For how long? A year? A month? An afternoon? Deep down, do you believe that you should let this thing go, or keep fighting to stay together - regardless of what 'together' may mean?