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Choose2love · 01-25-2010, 06:49 AM

This is an age old question... can men and women be really just friends? The answer is yes, kind of, and no, not really. The being alone with the opposite sex part opens up far too many doors to allow lines to be crossed, add to that an emotional "understanding" of each other and it can happen without warning... a hand holding can turn into an embrace, the hug can turn into a kiss and so on. That emotional closeness is what you once felt with your spouse and now that you are "having troubles" (dont know too much about what they are), and she is having this friendship with another single man, there is opportunity for things to happen. The emotional closeness makes women more vulnerable to cheating... if she feels more emotionally close to him than you... she may feel like she is cheating on him when she is with you! That's why women in this situaiton stop kissing their husbands, and pull away... they are emotionally bonded to someone else and I believe its been said here before that women only bond emotionally to one man at a time. So true!

Can you stop her? No. You cant tell her that she cant see him... that would add gasoline to an already burning fire. No line has been crossed yet. Now, if you discover a line has been crossed she can in no way see him again, and you can insist on it. The "line" is anything physical, as well as any sharing of private details about your relationship/marriage with him. She in no way should be talking with a single man about anything to do with the 2 of you... it communicates to him that she is dissatisfied with you and gives him a mental green light to take things further.
It sucks doesnt it?

01-25-2010, 06:49 AM	#10 (permalink)
Choose2love Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 247	Re: Can a married woman be friends with a single man? This is an age old question... can men and women be really just friends? The answer is yes, kind of, and no, not really. The being alone with the opposite sex part opens up far too many doors to allow lines to be crossed, add to that an emotional "understanding" of each other and it can happen without warning... a hand holding can turn into an embrace, the hug can turn into a kiss and so on. That emotional closeness is what you once felt with your spouse and now that you are "having troubles" (dont know too much about what they are), and she is having this friendship with another single man, there is opportunity for things to happen. The emotional closeness makes women more vulnerable to cheating... if she feels more emotionally close to him than you... she may feel like she is cheating on him when she is with you! That's why women in this situaiton stop kissing their husbands, and pull away... they are emotionally bonded to someone else and I believe its been said here before that women only bond emotionally to one man at a time. So true! Can you stop her? No. You cant tell her that she cant see him... that would add gasoline to an already burning fire. No line has been crossed yet. Now, if you discover a line has been crossed she can in no way see him again, and you can insist on it. The "line" is anything physical, as well as any sharing of private details about your relationship/marriage with him. She in no way should be talking with a single man about anything to do with the 2 of you... it communicates to him that she is dissatisfied with you and gives him a mental green light to take things further. It sucks doesnt it?