Originally Posted by LIZ

My husband and I are currently living with his parents in an attempt to save money to buy a house. My problem is that I can’t stand to live there anymore. Since we’ve been living there my husband and I have been fighting over different issues. The main concern that I have is that his mother has demanded that as long as we are at her house she will handle our savings. She has our savings account under her name and I have no access to. She made this demand to my husband in private, and what hurt me the most was the he agreed to it without even discussing it with me. I’ve talked to him about it, but he sees nothing wrong. He says his mother is only trying to help us. I still think that we should handle our own finances and savings. This situation makes me feel like my husband doesn’t think I’m capable of handling our money. I finally gave him an ultimatum: we move out immediately from this parents and rent or I’m done with the marriage. He decided that it was the best decision for us to continue with the current arrangement. And won’t even consider setting a move out date. He said we are staying there...not matter how long it takes to buy a house. He says this is the smart decision and he is going to continue with this plan with me or without me. I told him I was leaving and that I would give him some time to think things over and to call me when he was willing to comprise. He flat out told me he wouldn’t be calling me. I have left him and gone back to my parents until I decide what to do next. I’m so hurt and confuse. I feel that I’m not a priority in his life and that he does what his mother tells him to keep her happy. It’s been two days since I left and he hasn’t call. How much time should I give him to think about this situation, before I take the next step: divorce?