ceejay

Please get out now. You are being used and abused and it won't get better once you are married, it will only get worse. All of the signs are there now. Don't judge him on how he appears to treat others, go only on how he treats you and he does not treat you very well at all. It is not your responsibility to pay his debts and I find it alarming that he is asking you to pay his debts. From the information you posted your relationship is based on lies and deceit. Don't make the mistake so many of us have made...the signs are there, please listen to them.