hitrockbottom

I have a few questions!

Did you say anything when he blamed you for his affair? Or when he picked apart your personality?

As for his affair...yes maybe there was a problem with your marriage, but that doesn't make it your fault. You didn't put the two of them together..

My situation for example. Huge problem in my wife and our marriage..I realized that(after about a month of talking) I talked to her...it wasn't the lack of communication or lack of sex that caused me to have the one night stand...It was my lack of selfrespect and the fact that I was Angry at her...I think counseling would help the both of you..