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jon61575 · 07-29-2008, 02:06 PM

If you believe that God meant for you to be together and it’s a part of God’s plan then you will be together. I don’t have any other real advice except to pray and give control to God. I’m going through a similar situation. My wife and I have known each other for 15 years and have been married for 9. We have one son age 5. We met in church where I asked her out in a prayer that if it was God’s plan for us to be together that she would say yes. She said yes that day and we were married several years later before God. I believe God put us together for a purpose and he used us in powerful ways. Over the course of our marriage, the world started to weigh on us. We had financial problems, including foreclosure, the death of several family members, both of our father’s going through cancer and just last fall the death of our second baby. With the world weighing on us we both fell away from God and each other. She started going out and not coming home at night and we fought all the time. She turned into someone else. We separated in June and I recently found out she had an affair. It hit me very hard and the only thing on my mind was divorce. I went through all range of emotions and hurt like I’ve never hurt before. It was when I was at my lowest point, when I had no control anymore, I started to hear God again. He spoke to me in many different ways and it was so loud that I couldn’t ignore it. God changed my heart and reminded me of forgiveness. After that I gave God everything and left all the junk at the cross.

When a bone breaks, the break heals back stronger then before. I pray several times a day that God would heal our relationship and make it stronger then before. If we are able to overcome these trials, with God’s help, what will come out of it would be greater then anything we ever had before. With God in control, anything is possible and I believe that with my whole heart.

We are still separated, she is still having the affair. I believe God meant for us to be together, but I don’t know God’s timetable. I pray for strength to endure, hope for the future, and healing and forgiveness now. I will pray for you too.

07-29-2008, 02:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
jon61575 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3	Re: Separation but hopeful If you believe that God meant for you to be together and it’s a part of God’s plan then you will be together. I don’t have any other real advice except to pray and give control to God. I’m going through a similar situation. My wife and I have known each other for 15 years and have been married for 9. We have one son age 5. We met in church where I asked her out in a prayer that if it was God’s plan for us to be together that she would say yes. She said yes that day and we were married several years later before God. I believe God put us together for a purpose and he used us in powerful ways. Over the course of our marriage, the world started to weigh on us. We had financial problems, including foreclosure, the death of several family members, both of our father’s going through cancer and just last fall the death of our second baby. With the world weighing on us we both fell away from God and each other. She started going out and not coming home at night and we fought all the time. She turned into someone else. We separated in June and I recently found out she had an affair. It hit me very hard and the only thing on my mind was divorce. I went through all range of emotions and hurt like I’ve never hurt before. It was when I was at my lowest point, when I had no control anymore, I started to hear God again. He spoke to me in many different ways and it was so loud that I couldn’t ignore it. God changed my heart and reminded me of forgiveness. After that I gave God everything and left all the junk at the cross. When a bone breaks, the break heals back stronger then before. I pray several times a day that God would heal our relationship and make it stronger then before. If we are able to overcome these trials, with God’s help, what will come out of it would be greater then anything we ever had before. With God in control, anything is possible and I believe that with my whole heart. We are still separated, she is still having the affair. I believe God meant for us to be together, but I don’t know God’s timetable. I pray for strength to endure, hope for the future, and healing and forgiveness now. I will pray for you too.