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however , as long as you stay together (but still not married) .. you become to discover that there is some differences in your way of thinking and treating the conflicts ...
you may also discover some bad attitudes of your love ... you do not like them... simple because u did not expect them from your love !
the up-to-date research in marital life says " for marriage to succeed , the relationship shall be "friendship or companionship" , and not romantic " .. this means as friends each of you will try to appreciate the other and listen to him , share him good and bad times , help him in all affairs , support him in the event of crises ,
...this is actually the real love that sustain and last ... it is action more than words and courtship .."i.e Romantic Love"..
So, since u r friends now , and u still did not marry , but u still can not communicate very well ...I'm very afraid that the same problem will continue to appear... especially you have broken many times ... but my question who initiate the breaking each time ...? (the one who did so is less careful and more emotional and less logical cant take a good control of his relationship ) ...
It is very normal to date 5 years and still have a problem of communication ... most marriages end in the first 10 years !!!!!
so no surprise at all ..
the problem of these marriages can be a variety of things ...
however , most critical thing is about the "EXPECTATION" ...
u expect him to change .. "sorry he will probably never ..as well as you .." ..
it seems that both of you get angry when are drunk ...if you always have conflicts even when you r not drunk ... this means there is a gap of actions between both of you ...
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