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cao428 · 07-31-2008, 12:28 AM

Hi Canders,

Sounds like the damage was done with the infidelity, but you gave it your best effort to make it up to her. Sometimes a spouse will feel that they have lost loving feelings through the hurt and smothering, but they infact still love you. I think you both just need to get into a very good counselor ASAP. Don't be afraid to "shop" for a good one by calling on the phone.

Sorry you are going through such torment. If you can swing it it might be helpful to keep a personal counselor for yourself (sounds like you might already have one) and seek one separate for the two of you. That is what I am doing to help my marriage, to get stronger myself and then one for us as a couple.

Good luck!

07-31-2008, 12:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
cao428 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: North East USA Posts: 141	Re: hopeless or not Hi Canders, Sounds like the damage was done with the infidelity, but you gave it your best effort to make it up to her. Sometimes a spouse will feel that they have lost loving feelings through the hurt and smothering, but they infact still love you. I think you both just need to get into a very good counselor ASAP. Don't be afraid to "shop" for a good one by calling on the phone. Sorry you are going through such torment. If you can swing it it might be helpful to keep a personal counselor for yourself (sounds like you might already have one) and seek one separate for the two of you. That is what I am doing to help my marriage, to get stronger myself and then one for us as a couple. Good luck!