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Originally Posted by vitani88
the problem with anything like my response is that anytime i bring up sex he says that i think of nothing but sex. which is not true. however, i'm a 20 year old newly married bride who wants desperately to be with her husband. but every time we do make love, i feel like i have to drag it out of him. and it's not that he's embarrased. he was extremely promiscuous up until about 6 months before we met. i'm really not sure what's going on.
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I went through this with my husband. he didnt want to have sex with me. No apparent reason for it and he would say he was attracted to me. I would try and drag it out of him, try to do things i thought would turn him on, sometimes it worked but i was always restless. believe me, do not do this. you will only end up humiliating yourself and become resentful. If he says he doesnt want to do it, respect his boundaries and back off. Let him come to you. I know it sucks, believe me, but it will be worth it in the long run. Just remember it has nothing to do with you. There is something going on with him that he'll need to deal with. Its not you.
I found out why my husband didnt want to have sex with me. I am in no way saying this is what's going on with your husband. this was just my own personal experience. i put spyware on his computer and found so much porn i went into shock. Again im not saying this is what's going on with your husband. but what you've written sounds very similar to what i went through.
Most couples have these issues whether they've been together two months or ten years. I dated my husband for two years before we got married. Now i feel like i never knew him. I would really suggest you start reading about boundaries. He sounds like a very controlling man and it can be easy for you to get caught up in his demands, and in thinking you are responsible for his happiness.