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I grew up around drugs and have done them my self when I was younger for about 5 months..I have to say there is no one that can make a person quite, but the person who is doing them. They know you love them, but its kind of a distant feeling. What matters most is the rush they get from the drugs everything else including the people that love them are second. I have been clean now for years and have no urge to do them again. You gave him a ultimatum, this does not work with people who are on drugs, because I hate to say this, but the drugs mean more. If you told him that you were going to leave then you need to....you don't want to get pulled deeper in to his druggy life. This is something he has to do all on his own. If he wants to stop he will. If he doesn't then he wont. There is nothing you can really do about it. The only thing you can do is distant you self from it and give support when hes ready to have it. The best thing you can do is make sure you take care of your self. Do not beat your self up about leaving him, if you feel it is the right thing to do.

My mother does them...she never did when I was younger but she does now and I have tryed to reason with her to stop and to get away from everyone that does them...but she does not listen she still does them and the best I could do for me and my family is just to stay away from her. I love her but she is a grown woman if she want to do this to her self then she can. I check on her when I can and ask other family how shes doing, but I do not want to put my self back in the druggy scene and I would never take my kids around it.

Sometimes tough love is all you can give them from a distance.

I really hope he does better when he gets out....but from personal experience it can take up to a year to get your head back on strait from doing drugs.... it sounds like he is very dependent on them and should stay in a rehab until he is sure he wont go back.

Good luck on what ever you decide to do.