Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Is the act of intention the same as actually cheating?

honey28 · 08-01-2008, 07:32 PM

I think it is just as bad especially if the only thing that stopped it was her rejection. I would feel differently if he thought about doing it and then came to his senses on his own. It would have still been wrong, but different. He "shouldn't" be doing or saying anything right now other than the truth. You don't really want him to say or do something just to pacify you, you want and need to hear the truth. Even if it hurts, even if it's that he no longer wants the marriage. But if you do want your marriage, tell him that and ask him if he wants to and is willing to try to fix what has been broken. The fact that he is in counseling does "say" some of the things that he apparently has been unable to verbalize. Good luck to you, I hope everything works out for the two of you.

08-01-2008, 07:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
honey28 Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 40	Re: Is the act of intention the same as actually cheating? I think it is just as bad especially if the only thing that stopped it was her rejection. I would feel differently if he thought about doing it and then came to his senses on his own. It would have still been wrong, but different. He "shouldn't" be doing or saying anything right now other than the truth. You don't really want him to say or do something just to pacify you, you want and need to hear the truth. Even if it hurts, even if it's that he no longer wants the marriage. But if you do want your marriage, tell him that and ask him if he wants to and is willing to try to fix what has been broken. The fact that he is in counseling does "say" some of the things that he apparently has been unable to verbalize. Good luck to you, I hope everything works out for the two of you.