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Originally Posted by draconis
Think of sex as a cycle of love.
Love generates sex, which becomes intimacy, that turns into love.
Though Sex does not equal love per se.
I am sure if she feels a lack of intimacy or a lack of sincerity then she will be less inclined to want to have sex with you. But you say you have it everyday with her? Sounds like you can not apperciate what you have.
Also I think you really need to look at yourself. The statements you made are unbelievable. I am trying to figure out who you are trying to convince us the readers or yourself.
Don't get me wrong. I think it is great you came here. You are welcome to your opinion and all I can offer you is my point of view. Maybe it might help maybe not. But to go deeper into me helping you I'd have to go the tough love path and tell you as I see it and not as you want to hear it. I am sure in 24 hours plenty of other people will give some great advice from their perspective too. I hope you don't take anything I say as being mean or hurtful. I would much rather help you out then hurt you.
draconis
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no I'm not taking anything as mean or hurtful , I'm here for help , and to recieve help I need to admit to my own mistakes , and need to be shown , I guess , the truth and what it is I'm doing wrong since I havent had anyone to guide me into fatherhood / marrage .
I'm not trying to " convince " anyone of anything , just putting it out there like it is , I'm not good with explaining myself very well so some things could be taken wrong I suppose .
I do apperciate everything she does , and gives , but I dont want it to feel like she's doing it to only keep me happy .. I want to be the person she needs so that she will want me sexually , come to me sexually , I'm not putting any blame whatsoever on her for that , it's all me , I know that , I just dont know how to change that .
I'm open to any advice , good or bad , at this point you could call me the lowest on the food chain and I'd except that aslong as it's for a helpfull purpose , and you seem profestional enough to know the difference between bashing and giving constructive critisism .
to sum it all up .. I need help being a father figure and husband , because nobody has ever shown me that path , I donno maybe out of fear of the unknown I bury this problem and pretend it's gone .
I thank you for your comments and response
