justean

i had 2 hubby do infidelity.
1st ex hubby had a 6 month affair and ws on the go with constant others. got rid of him as soon as i found out.
2nd hubby - one night stand in april. split up . now trying to work things through.
i have learnt if they want you bad enough , they will stop.
first hubby ws awful n e way - so the affair although hard was in fact the best thing.
2 nd hubby got rid of the best mate (male)who had actually eggd on hubby to go with this girl.
but in the end the mate lost - in order to win me back.
my suggestion have been through this is, no matter what she gives him up.
otherwise you wont move on together.
he simply has to go.

however i have also moved on in my head.
i have actually told my hubby whether its today, tomorrow, next week, 6 months , a year.
that i accept i love my husband but he can go if i have to keep putting up with his demons.
its because i dont have to deal with them.
this has taken me 13 years to feel like this. but i have become so accepting of this love and wil not just go, that he can go.
i rarely drink, i dont smoke, i dont do drugs. i am faithful.
and i cannot be a better person than what i am.
i dont have those demons in the first place that need changing.