| | Re: My wife confessed her love for another.
It is hard to do the dirty work in “spying” on your spouse but in some cases it is necessary. I recommend you move away from that now and try to rebuild trust. It can be done but does take time. Your wife is involved in an emotional affair and it will take her time to get over him. Be prepared to be patient and supportive of her. I am in a similar situation. I found out about the affair over a year ago and she has been out of contact with him for 8 months now but we have not fully recovered as a couple. Because of your past behaviors she is disconnected from you and probably has some protective barriers up to keep from getting hurt should you fail again. Communicate with her to find out what she is wanting from your marriage and from you. My best advice is to strap in for the long haul. This will likely not recover for some time. Do not falter on your promises to her and make those changes a life long commitment. The two of you will need to reconnect so spend time together as both a family and a couple. You can learn to trust again so take the spy ware training wheels off and start now. I know where you are coming from here and I can tell you things do get better with effort and care. Don’t beat your self up too much on your past problems. You have now recognized your mistakes and are addressing them. Move from the past now and concentrate on the future. Good luck
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