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venussky · 08-04-2008, 05:54 PM

Okay,

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and together for nearly 11, we have been together since we were 18 & 19 so have basically grown up together. We even attended the same High School and he dated many of my friends then (before us). We have a 6 yr old, are building our first home and just at the start of building our lives the way we want.

We recently had our high school reunion and hung out with one of my old friends who happens to be his ex-gf. She came over to our house after and stayed the night along with a few other people. Nothing happened whatsoever to my knowledge but here is my quandry;

We both have MySpace accounts and had the same password. I accidentally (you know how the quick insert is on Windows) got his email address in the log in and put in my password as usual. It said it was wrong so I went back and realized it was his email I was trying to use. I thought that weird that he would feel the need to change his password when we have such an "open" relationship. Needless to say (BAD ME!) I figured out his new password and see that he has been emailing this friend/ex at 4 and 5 in the morning before he leaves for work. He emails his other friends around me on the laptop normally in the evenings. Does anyone find this wrong?

The emails are harmless, just "what you up to?" "Oh, sorry you got dumped" "how's the newjob", basic stuff. But to have him sneaking early in the mornings when I am not awake, isn't that saying something? I'm not an openly jealous sort and even admit when other women are hot, etc.. in front of him, so he doesn't need to ever feel like I would freak out about this and need to hide it. So why is he then?

I know I can't confront him as this would put him in the defensive and also inform him that I have access to his accounts. But what would you do?

08-04-2008, 05:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
venussky Registered User Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7	Husband Writing ex-Gf on Myspace at 4am. Okay, My husband and I have been married for 7 years and together for nearly 11, we have been together since we were 18 & 19 so have basically grown up together. We even attended the same High School and he dated many of my friends then (before us). We have a 6 yr old, are building our first home and just at the start of building our lives the way we want. We recently had our high school reunion and hung out with one of my old friends who happens to be his ex-gf. She came over to our house after and stayed the night along with a few other people. Nothing happened whatsoever to my knowledge but here is my quandry; We both have MySpace accounts and had the same password. I accidentally (you know how the quick insert is on Windows) got his email address in the log in and put in my password as usual. It said it was wrong so I went back and realized it was his email I was trying to use. I thought that weird that he would feel the need to change his password when we have such an "open" relationship. Needless to say (BAD ME!) I figured out his new password and see that he has been emailing this friend/ex at 4 and 5 in the morning before he leaves for work. He emails his other friends around me on the laptop normally in the evenings. Does anyone find this wrong? The emails are harmless, just "what you up to?" "Oh, sorry you got dumped" "how's the newjob", basic stuff. But to have him sneaking early in the mornings when I am not awake, isn't that saying something? I'm not an openly jealous sort and even admit when other women are hot, etc.. in front of him, so he doesn't need to ever feel like I would freak out about this and need to hide it. So why is he then? I know I can't confront him as this would put him in the defensive and also inform him that I have access to his accounts. But what would you do?