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worriedwife · 02-11-2010, 02:13 PM

So I caught my husband chatting online with women. I was currently pregnant in my third trimester and on bedrest. I needed to use the computer and when I got it out of sleep mode there it was... A chat session my husband was having with some 20something girl. They were flirting alot and he called her hon. I was going to leave him... but then i decided not to run away.. I decided to confront him. When he got home from work I straight up asked him if he was cheating on me. He said no that he had been talking to her for a few weeks and it was nothing physical. He said that he had been feeling lonely (since i was on bedrest) and she filled that void. I think that statement hurt me the most. I think it would of hurt less if he said it was just physical pleasure over the net rather than saying it was filling an emotional void. Anyways... He quit chatting online and I thought everything was good. Then i found pics on his computer. Not sexy pics but pictures of girls he met online. They were older pics from when we were dating... but then I started to think ...How long has he been doing this? He doesn't think its cheating... To me it is. I confronted him about the pics and he deleted them and said they were old from before we got married.... He didn't say before we were dating...but before we got married. He told me I had nothing to worry about that he wasn't chatting with girls online and that after i confronted him last time that he "recommited himself to me" That statement alone upsets me. Do i have a right to be concerned?? Before this I never would have even worried... now its been about 7 months and i am always wondering.. Am i crazy to be worried?

02-11-2010, 02:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
worriedwife Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 2	Is internet "flirting" cheating? So I caught my husband chatting online with women. I was currently pregnant in my third trimester and on bedrest. I needed to use the computer and when I got it out of sleep mode there it was... A chat session my husband was having with some 20something girl. They were flirting alot and he called her hon. I was going to leave him... but then i decided not to run away.. I decided to confront him. When he got home from work I straight up asked him if he was cheating on me. He said no that he had been talking to her for a few weeks and it was nothing physical. He said that he had been feeling lonely (since i was on bedrest) and she filled that void. I think that statement hurt me the most. I think it would of hurt less if he said it was just physical pleasure over the net rather than saying it was filling an emotional void. Anyways... He quit chatting online and I thought everything was good. Then i found pics on his computer. Not sexy pics but pictures of girls he met online. They were older pics from when we were dating... but then I started to think ...How long has he been doing this? He doesn't think its cheating... To me it is. I confronted him about the pics and he deleted them and said they were old from before we got married.... He didn't say before we were dating...but before we got married. He told me I had nothing to worry about that he wasn't chatting with girls online and that after i confronted him last time that he "recommited himself to me" That statement alone upsets me. Do i have a right to be concerned?? Before this I never would have even worried... now its been about 7 months and i am always wondering.. Am i crazy to be worried?