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827Aug · 08-05-2008, 08:27 AM

In The Five Love Languages, five catagories of "needs" are explained in depth. They are words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and physical touch. Out of these catagories, most busbands and wifes have different needs. My husband thrived on words of affirmation, and physical touch. I, however, needed quality time and acts of service. This is where we went wrong. My husband was trying to communicate to me thru his love languages and I was trying to communicate to my husband thru my love languages. Neither of us were getting what we needed to feel loved.

So, over time people who aren't feeling love grow apart, fight, cheat, etc. This book has definately opened my eyes to why people have marriage problem. Many of the post on this forum are clearly the end result of spouses not speaking each others "love language". Since many of the post clearly illustrate early signs of this phenomenon, I am now recommending this book. I'm sorry to be a bore, but I feel it is important to get to the root of the problems.

Cao, let me know how After The Affair is. I may need to add that one to my list.

08-05-2008, 08:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
827Aug Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Southern USA Posts: 258	Re: Marriage And Self Help Books.... In The Five Love Languages, five catagories of "needs" are explained in depth. They are words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and physical touch. Out of these catagories, most busbands and wifes have different needs. My husband thrived on words of affirmation, and physical touch. I, however, needed quality time and acts of service. This is where we went wrong. My husband was trying to communicate to me thru his love languages and I was trying to communicate to my husband thru my love languages. Neither of us were getting what we needed to feel loved. So, over time people who aren't feeling love grow apart, fight, cheat, etc. This book has definately opened my eyes to why people have marriage problem. Many of the post on this forum are clearly the end result of spouses not speaking each others "love language". Since many of the post clearly illustrate early signs of this phenomenon, I am now recommending this book. I'm sorry to be a bore, but I feel it is important to get to the root of the problems. Cao, let me know how After The Affair is. I may need to add that one to my list.