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iheartmywife · 08-05-2008, 10:58 AM

we had a bit of a text war last night. she told me i need to stop checking the phone and looking at the "her" phone bill. I told her that we are married. i took her good with the bad. its not yours and mines anymore its ours. what made me have to laugh is that she hasnt paid the cell phone bill in almost four years. ive been paying hers and mines ever since. she says she wants to work on us but i need to stop picking fights with her. My answer. stop giving me reasons not to trust you and to argue with you.
i told her that i have changed. if she wants to be with me she gotta show me that im what she wants. im worth it. for the past couple of months ive just been thinking about her feelings and how what i can do to make things better. well enough of that. i did my part. if she wants to keep me she will have to change a couple of things. starting with the phone number and where she works. the phone number so if i see that damn number pop up again i know what to do. and the transfering of the job. thats for my piece of mind. they work together and i would never ever be comfortable with that. if it happened once it can happen again. you cant call a mule a donkey and you cant call a horse a jack@ss. ive had it.
its proving time. there is no more me feeling sorry for myself. there is only changes. i guess i came to the same realization that JUSTEAN came to. i love her and that wont change but i wont put up with her crap. she can put up with it by herself. whenever she is ready she can leave. but at least i know that ive tried my best to make things work.
LJTSENG you are right she doesnt appreciate what i gave up for her. im upset about it but im not bitter. in my opinion i gave them up for a reason. and a damn good one at that. she aint acting right now but a damn good reason.
I will be doing alot of things now for me. starting with a change of jobs. and the fun part. motorcycle. i will pick back up learning to play the guitar. i will still be going to church. thats going to always be a constant. there is the only time where i can wash away the grime and heavyness of the week with worship.
my friend made a good point. you lead by example. we needed church like we need air. since we have gone back to church together as a family things were starting to get better. i hope that she will still come with me. even if she doesnt i still will be praying for her.
she is my heart string. the adrian to my rocky. the toco to my bell. i will always love her but this is the time for change. and i stand by that.

08-05-2008, 10:58 AM	#12 (permalink)
iheartmywife Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: nyc Posts: 92	Re: In need of some serious advice we had a bit of a text war last night. she told me i need to stop checking the phone and looking at the "her" phone bill. I told her that we are married. i took her good with the bad. its not yours and mines anymore its ours. what made me have to laugh is that she hasnt paid the cell phone bill in almost four years. ive been paying hers and mines ever since. she says she wants to work on us but i need to stop picking fights with her. My answer. stop giving me reasons not to trust you and to argue with you. i told her that i have changed. if she wants to be with me she gotta show me that im what she wants. im worth it. for the past couple of months ive just been thinking about her feelings and how what i can do to make things better. well enough of that. i did my part. if she wants to keep me she will have to change a couple of things. starting with the phone number and where she works. the phone number so if i see that damn number pop up again i know what to do. and the transfering of the job. thats for my piece of mind. they work together and i would never ever be comfortable with that. if it happened once it can happen again. you cant call a mule a donkey and you cant call a horse a jack@ss. ive had it. its proving time. there is no more me feeling sorry for myself. there is only changes. i guess i came to the same realization that JUSTEAN came to. i love her and that wont change but i wont put up with her crap. she can put up with it by herself. whenever she is ready she can leave. but at least i know that ive tried my best to make things work. LJTSENG you are right she doesnt appreciate what i gave up for her. im upset about it but im not bitter. in my opinion i gave them up for a reason. and a damn good one at that. she aint acting right now but a damn good reason. I will be doing alot of things now for me. starting with a change of jobs. and the fun part. motorcycle. i will pick back up learning to play the guitar. i will still be going to church. thats going to always be a constant. there is the only time where i can wash away the grime and heavyness of the week with worship. my friend made a good point. you lead by example. we needed church like we need air. since we have gone back to church together as a family things were starting to get better. i hope that she will still come with me. even if she doesnt i still will be praying for her. she is my heart string. the adrian to my rocky. the toco to my bell. i will always love her but this is the time for change. and i stand by that.