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Originally Posted by venussky
Oh yes, it has comepletely changed my level of trust in him. A friend of mine suggested I start getting up earlier as he does and just hang out with him. I tried that today. HAHA Sad, I know. But there I was at 5am sitting on the sofa with him and he's just wondering why in the H*** I'm awake. I think sometimes I should do this anyway, getting up when he does for work, even if I don't go into work until much later. This way we see eachother at the beginning of our day and the ending. It also doesn't give him the chance to sneak behind my back.
Thanks so much!
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I have done the same thing! She likes to be on the computer after we are all in bed for alone time. When I am feeling really insecure I will get up for some water and take a peek. It's tough when the trust is broken. We are getting better communication in our marriage through weekly talks. If you are interested in hearing about that I would be happy to elaborate. You are going to at some point address this issue. It will not go away by not giving him a chance to do this behind your back.
I will warn you that even though your behavior makes you feel better, it will make the situation worse. Each behavior enhabits another. This is a mistake I have learned. The more you try and push, the more he will pull away and be secretive. I do not think my wife is cheating on me, and try to push those thoughts out of my mind. It doesn't sound as though your hubby is either. You will at some point have to disclose that you looked through his email and what you found. You need to deal with the trust issue.