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Originally Posted by venussky
Dancing Nancie,
I see all your points. All true. I keep getting even more upset about it. I think I should just drop it even though confronting him may make me feel better. I don't know. Maybe I will continue to snoop and just make sure nothing more comes of it? Just make sure he's not steering in the direction of infidelity? If in fact, he does start flirting, etc. then I should confront him? I just hate how this situation has made me feel about myself, like I'm a bad wife, ugly, fat, etc. etc. This ex of his is cute, skinny, single, having the "time of her life", is an actress in a theatre troup (which is something my husband was into himself when younger), I just feel like he may find her more exciting, the type of girl living the type of life he always wanted...... ick... sorry..... low self esteem kicks in.... haha.
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Well he very well may be interested in her life, and what that is like. Don't get down on yourself! While you may envy her single life, she may envy your married life. It seems to always be that way...
As for advice I will say this. I would probably still snoop. I just don't think I could take not knowing. My advice is to not do so though. I know its tough, but you are only setting yourself up to be angry. I think you should just say that you noticed when trying to log in to your myspace account you accidently logged into his. You noticed he changed the password, and ask him if he is planning you a surprise party or something...
Take this situation as a chance to spice up your life a little bit. He may miss theater, so take him to a play or two. Surprise him in the morning with some passion so at least when he get online that he is thinking of you.