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Bluefish · 08-05-2008, 10:03 PM

I have been married for 8 years now.I have worked third shift (retail) and my hours are 10pm-7am sometimes later.In the past year its been the hardest on our marriage.We fight about everything!!!Matter-in-fact she has been band from where I work because she started a fight when we went to pick up my check from work about 6 months ago!!!!We have a 8 year old little girl that I love very much sometimes my wife calls her a "pest" and I just hate that.I wish I can quit my 3rd shift job but that is impossible for money reason.I feel depressed all the time and the guys at work ask me "what wrong"??ect....I tell them a little bit whats going on.I tell them that she wants me to quit 3rd shift but I also tell them if I quit how will the bills get payed??My wife do not understand this.We are not overload with bills and I could work just a small part-time job but after a month we will be fighting about money.NOW it seems God has throw another ball at me.Two weeks ago we had a new girl to start working with us on third shift as a cashier (were open 24 hours)She is from Bulgaria and is a very nice girl and we have alot in common.She knows me and my wife are having problems before she came to our country.Its like we have connected a little and I know we have.I just think we are both are afaird to talk about our feeling on the Job.Make matters worse the night manger kind of know I like this girl and puts me working with her.Even the Co-manger in the mornings also tells me things like she is a very nice girl ect.......NO I have not asked this girl to out with me or anything ,but I really think we to sit down outside of the job and talk about our feelings.One other thing makes this more interesting is that she was staying until September but now she is getting her work visa and staying here in the usa.Right now I having mixed feelings and need help.There is alot more to this with my wife even my father and mother worry about about me because the way my wife treat me and my little girl.There are tons of little things also.Any opinion would be greatful.I need all I can get before my mind gos.I do love my wife but in the last year she has pay more attention to the cats than me!!!!Thanks for the help......

08-05-2008, 10:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bluefish Registered User Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1	Need help do not know what to do??? I have been married for 8 years now.I have worked third shift (retail) and my hours are 10pm-7am sometimes later.In the past year its been the hardest on our marriage.We fight about everything!!!Matter-in-fact she has been band from where I work because she started a fight when we went to pick up my check from work about 6 months ago!!!!We have a 8 year old little girl that I love very much sometimes my wife calls her a "pest" and I just hate that.I wish I can quit my 3rd shift job but that is impossible for money reason.I feel depressed all the time and the guys at work ask me "what wrong"??ect....I tell them a little bit whats going on.I tell them that she wants me to quit 3rd shift but I also tell them if I quit how will the bills get payed??My wife do not understand this.We are not overload with bills and I could work just a small part-time job but after a month we will be fighting about money.NOW it seems God has throw another ball at me.Two weeks ago we had a new girl to start working with us on third shift as a cashier (were open 24 hours)She is from Bulgaria and is a very nice girl and we have alot in common.She knows me and my wife are having problems before she came to our country.Its like we have connected a little and I know we have.I just think we are both are afaird to talk about our feeling on the Job.Make matters worse the night manger kind of know I like this girl and puts me working with her.Even the Co-manger in the mornings also tells me things like she is a very nice girl ect.......NO I have not asked this girl to out with me or anything ,but I really think we to sit down outside of the job and talk about our feelings.One other thing makes this more interesting is that she was staying until September but now she is getting her work visa and staying here in the usa.Right now I having mixed feelings and need help.There is alot more to this with my wife even my father and mother worry about about me because the way my wife treat me and my little girl.There are tons of little things also.Any opinion would be greatful.I need all I can get before my mind gos.I do love my wife but in the last year she has pay more attention to the cats than me!!!!Thanks for the help......