oblivionbaby

Stumped-
wow. I read this and wonder if we are married to the same guy. It's tough being on the other end of somebody saying "you need somebody better than me" because you think if you are willing to accept what they are able to give all should be okay. But this is what I am learning: "you need someone better than me" may actually mean I don't want to put the effort into this relationship because it is not what I want and I feel bad about it. When that is what is underneath, it doesn't matter what we find acceptable from them- even if we know it is less than what we deserve- because the choice isn't truly ours. But even if it may not genuine when your husband or mine says it, it's true none the less. Everyone should at the very basis of a relationship be with someone they know wants to be with them right? It seems really basic, but you deserve it and so do I. Don't settle for less than knowing you are wanted by the person you chose to be with- and don't fall pray to the notion that everyone has to be with somebody all the time just to feel valued as a person. I am going to bet that you are someone that listens to and cares for your friends, that you try to do your best and that is all any of us can do to bring value to our lives; by just trying to do what is right and good. Best ishes for your future.