keefer

I get that you may not be in the mood. I understand that sex may be the last thing on your mind after a day with kids. You want your time, time to relax, time to be alone without having someone constantly needing you attention. And you deserve that. Does your husband understand this? If not then he needs to understand it. Make sure that he understands this. Does he ever keep the kids all day long alone, if not, make that start happening.

As for you, you need to understand from his point of view. Making love to you is his way of displaying his affection to you. When you reject his sexual advances, he sees it as you rejecting his love for you.

Now I know you mentioned you gave up a career and that you are the one at home. You seem to be somewhat resentful of this. Remember that he is the one leaving his family everyday to be the sole provider. This can be stressful at times for you husband. I think you need to look at the gift, and I do mean gift, that allows you to be a stay at home mother. There are many, many people out there that do not have the luxury. I know that this is hard work and incredibly demanding. He is probably coming home thinking that making love to you would be a nice stress release for both of you, show you that he loves you and that you appreciate what he is providing for you.

If he is getting up early for the quickie, does he still expect sex at night? If so, that seems a bit much. If not, then this seems like a good solution. You have rested through the night, assuming the kids are sleeping through the night. Seems like a perfect way to start the day off. You should not be worn out from the day.

Also does he need all out sex. What just getting him off, sometimes for me that is all I want/need.