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Amplexor · 08-06-2008, 11:23 AM

What you did was wrong, no doubt about it. Your husband was hurt and acting out of emotions. Verbal abuse is not good in any relationship but he lost his temper in a moment of high emotion. He may also not trust in you that the emails were all that happened since you state you have a history of lying. I don’t agree with him in airing the family laundry and he may have done this for vindication if he is thinking of leaving the marriage. You are angry with him for his reaction to what happened and I can understand that. While you did not physically sleep with TOM what you did is outside there boundaries of a marriage in my opinion. The next step for you both is to communicate and find what each of you wants in the relationship. Build those in your own marriage and you will have no need for TOM. Non abusive and quiet communication is what is needed now. The damage has been done by both parties, now it is time to pick up the pieces.

08-06-2008, 11:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 907	Re: New to this.please help What you did was wrong, no doubt about it. Your husband was hurt and acting out of emotions. Verbal abuse is not good in any relationship but he lost his temper in a moment of high emotion. He may also not trust in you that the emails were all that happened since you state you have a history of lying. I don’t agree with him in airing the family laundry and he may have done this for vindication if he is thinking of leaving the marriage. You are angry with him for his reaction to what happened and I can understand that. While you did not physically sleep with TOM what you did is outside there boundaries of a marriage in my opinion. The next step for you both is to communicate and find what each of you wants in the relationship. Build those in your own marriage and you will have no need for TOM. Non abusive and quiet communication is what is needed now. The damage has been done by both parties, now it is time to pick up the pieces. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.