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Madhattersteaparty · 08-06-2008, 08:44 PM

Two years ago, my husband met his half siblings. Since then my life has been a living hell. Through our 20 years of marriage we have had our ups and downs. Both of us had admitted to each other our contentment of our lives. On average he would call me 6 times a day at work saying that he called just to hear my voice.
My issue stems from the amount of time that he now spends with his half niece who is 6 months older than he. At best it is an emotional affair. He on average spent 60 hours a month on the phone with her and their text messaging was up to 2500 a month. Since voiced my displeasure of how much time he spent chatting with her, he changed his cell phone account so that I can no longer monitor their contact. I am a busy woman who works 40 hours a week and have 3 children to take care of. Believe me; I would not have gone looking if I did not feel so strongly that something was amiss. He claims that all of this time he was learning from her about his family which he never knew. However, my thought is what makes her the family historian especially since she probably did not know the details first hand. Additionally he claimed that she had some form of drinking problem which varied from alcohol abuse to alcoholism. This was blamed on her husband allegedly being controlling. They have recently divorced.
Over the past five weeks he has spent every Tuesday evening with her under the pretense that she is helping him with her books. He has spent 4 of the past Saturdays with her. One with our daughter’s playing soccer and the other 3 taking our children down the shore all day with her children. I should say that one of the Saturday’s was our 20th wedding anniversary, and I could not even reach him by phone.
It is like my husband is addicted to her. He exhibits many traits of an addict. Our daughter who is nearly 20 says that he is going thru a mid life crisis along with exhibiting signs of addiction.
Since he has meet this family which he really spends little time with members other than her, he has lost a lucrative business, had his vehicle repossessed, our house is in jeopardy of being foreclosed on. He lies so much I think he actually believes what he says.
This really does not even scratch the surface of how fantastical my life has been.

08-06-2008, 08:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
Madhattersteaparty Registered User Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 1	I wish I could say that I am kidding Two years ago, my husband met his half siblings. Since then my life has been a living hell. Through our 20 years of marriage we have had our ups and downs. Both of us had admitted to each other our contentment of our lives. On average he would call me 6 times a day at work saying that he called just to hear my voice. My issue stems from the amount of time that he now spends with his half niece who is 6 months older than he. At best it is an emotional affair. He on average spent 60 hours a month on the phone with her and their text messaging was up to 2500 a month. Since voiced my displeasure of how much time he spent chatting with her, he changed his cell phone account so that I can no longer monitor their contact. I am a busy woman who works 40 hours a week and have 3 children to take care of. Believe me; I would not have gone looking if I did not feel so strongly that something was amiss. He claims that all of this time he was learning from her about his family which he never knew. However, my thought is what makes her the family historian especially since she probably did not know the details first hand. Additionally he claimed that she had some form of drinking problem which varied from alcohol abuse to alcoholism. This was blamed on her husband allegedly being controlling. They have recently divorced. Over the past five weeks he has spent every Tuesday evening with her under the pretense that she is helping him with her books. He has spent 4 of the past Saturdays with her. One with our daughter’s playing soccer and the other 3 taking our children down the shore all day with her children. I should say that one of the Saturday’s was our 20th wedding anniversary, and I could not even reach him by phone. It is like my husband is addicted to her. He exhibits many traits of an addict. Our daughter who is nearly 20 says that he is going thru a mid life crisis along with exhibiting signs of addiction. Since he has meet this family which he really spends little time with members other than her, he has lost a lucrative business, had his vehicle repossessed, our house is in jeopardy of being foreclosed on. He lies so much I think he actually believes what he says. This really does not even scratch the surface of how fantastical my life has been.