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Originally Posted by swedish  I have to agree with Alexandra and gobroncos6....the thought of being spanked does not do anything for me either. |
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Originally Posted by BellaOnlineMarriageEditor I have to say I disagree with the spanking issue. I would be shocked to say the least! |
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Originally Posted by MEM11363 Rough physical interaction and its impact on arousal levels is not something to "analyze". You do it once or twice and see how your body reacts. |
Exactly what MEM11363 has said, basically not to knock it before you try it.
Again notice what I have said in the point of spanking, I had no idea and was going against how I was raised to never hit a woman.
But in this way, in sexual attraction and in a form of discipline and yes, the physical display of dominance, to take these first steps it was like the new world opening to see in reaction of the woman.
The first time I took this spanking to action, to see and experience sexual reactions in these "primal" sense, spanking for starters maybe, and maybe leading to other forms of physical display, know that it really does not do it justice to write or even speak much about it, only to experience it.
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Originally Posted by MEM11363 I understand why your 21st century brain is telling you this is offensive. I will also tell you that every woman I have been with gets turned on by being physically overpowered. |
So it is exactly this, to the point of this thread, to never under estimate in sexual attraction the difference between action and words.
Sexual attraction is behavior and feeling and emotion MUCH older than words or language in us as human beings.
Also it is good to say, and I am sure MEM11363 is agreeing, there is nothing to say in these things that is non consensual between the man and woman.
I will confess, in the private places as I am a man with my woman, that I have taken the courage to behave and push myself to this type of physical sexual assertiveness, to give the specific details would not be beneficial, and perhaps even distracting to this topic, but simply to say to use pinning and wrestling and bondage and overpowering to the effect of I was often thinking I would go to jail very easily for such things if it was truly non consensual.
But know in my relationship, there is always the "safe word" that is always honored, and so unless to hear that it is to continue to be surprised at how far these boundries have been pushed!!!
And know this also, this is nothing I have sprung upon my woman out of the blue, for understand that it was over time her own hints and suggestions and fantasies, of boundage, or to be spanked, or to be held down, or to be ravished. And in hearing these clues, so I pursued the behavior, and was very much rewarded for it.
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Originally Posted by MEM11363 Some like the playful tone, some a bit more serious and some like a truly rough borderline mean tone. I like playful the best - but am willing to role play as needed. This is a 100 percent hit rate - the wrestling to overpower. As for spanking - IF - you do this when a pre-menopausal woman is mid-cycle you have way more than a 50 percent chance of it turning her on. WAY MORE. Mid cycle, hormones cause women want a rougher more dominant male interaction style.
If you choose to look at being spanked as the guy is doing something degrading to you - your loss. This is no different than the guys who feel it is degrading their wives always want the men to initiate and the wives are pretty relaxed about rejecting their mens advances. Good sex is a HIGH INTENSITY experience. The rejection is usually not a mean spirited thing and the spanking is NOT mean spirited unless the guy is a head case - it is just one more ratchet higher in the dominance spectrum. |
It is not uncommon for a woman to share in words that she does not understand why she is getting so physically sexually turned on by some of these behaviors, and instead she should maybe be somewhat offended or nervous. But the effect is very real and to see a woman "unleashed" there is nothing else like it!
So it is true to not let the mind thinking "degrading" when the body is maybe feeling something much different.
