827Aug

Hi!

Sorry to hear another person is having to go thru this hell. Everything you describe has been my life for the past two years. I really believe your husband is having an affair. Perhaps he doesn't see this lady as a family member--he never saw her until two years ago and the "genetics" aren't that close (in his eyes). I too have been victimized as a result of an affair. My husband has ruined our credit, lost a very successful business, and has bizzare behavior for me to deal with.

From experience, don't give him an ultimatum. That will completely drive him to her. Remeber, she is good; you are bad (in his mind). He's probably already done more than you know about. He's had to fund all the activities with her. Have you checked his credit report lately? Does he have bank accounts you don't know about? As you dig, don't be shocked at what you find.

Do you want to save your marriage? If the answer is yes, I recommend you and your husband go to couple's counseling. If he won't go, then go alone. It will help you. Also, read The Five Love Languages. I believe that book will explain a lot. It really helped me deal with my situation. Good luck!