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Triton · 08-07-2008, 10:26 AM

MT , I was just saying that I had a hard time listening and delivering a message that was understood by her. I found out that we speak only about 125 to 150 words a min. , but can process 500-600 words a min. That left me with so much time to interrupt i.e. not listening completely. Leaving the wife to say ," You are not listening !". Sex is always great with the wife. Thank God no problems there.

Example of how I would communicate- After being asked something by the wife , my response would be -"What ya need to do ---- ." Now it comes out - " What I would suggest is----." Much better to her ears.

When I look back, I realize that I was a "Good" Pseudo- listener in all my relationships- Know why ? I could have cared less about what a woman was talking about- just nod my head-throw out a few-"Really ". I just wanted in the end -Sex. Heck , it worked. But when I started to care- put my two cents in -Here is the problem.

08-07-2008, 10:26 AM	#11 (permalink)
Triton Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 72	Re: Does a " Good Guy " ever speak the woman language ? MT , I was just saying that I had a hard time listening and delivering a message that was understood by her. I found out that we speak only about 125 to 150 words a min. , but can process 500-600 words a min. That left me with so much time to interrupt i.e. not listening completely. Leaving the wife to say ," You are not listening !". Sex is always great with the wife. Thank God no problems there. Example of how I would communicate- After being asked something by the wife , my response would be -"What ya need to do ---- ." Now it comes out - " What I would suggest is----." Much better to her ears. When I look back, I realize that I was a "Good" Pseudo- listener in all my relationships- Know why ? I could have cared less about what a woman was talking about- just nod my head-throw out a few-"Really ". I just wanted in the end -Sex. Heck , it worked. But when I started to care- put my two cents in -Here is the problem.