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ljtseng · 08-07-2008, 01:59 PM

My husband and i had a similar problem. He would shut down when i tried to talk to him and then id just get more aggressive. But i changed gears and I started asking him first if he felt he could respond to what i had to say. I would tell him it was something that was very important to me but if he felt he couldnt respond then i would wait another day. And i would give him a time limit; 15 minutes or 30 minutes at the max.

Try coming up with a compromise so both of you get your needs met. its important that he feels his boundaries are respected and that he's not just being bombarded by overwhelming emotions.

08-07-2008, 01:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
ljtseng Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 965	Re: Advice please My husband and i had a similar problem. He would shut down when i tried to talk to him and then id just get more aggressive. But i changed gears and I started asking him first if he felt he could respond to what i had to say. I would tell him it was something that was very important to me but if he felt he couldnt respond then i would wait another day. And i would give him a time limit; 15 minutes or 30 minutes at the max. Try coming up with a compromise so both of you get your needs met. its important that he feels his boundaries are respected and that he's not just being bombarded by overwhelming emotions.