Help239

I agree - tread lightly. I know if my W wanted to come back home right now after all that she has done to hurt this family I would not even consider it until she answered the following questions and got on the fast track to getting some professional help. This is my own situation of course:

1) what drove you to leave and file for divorce in the first place?
2) what drove you to commit adultery?
3) what has changed since those decisions were made?
4) are you willing to commit to repairing our relationship and rebuilding the trust? If so, how?

I have had a front row seat (heck I have backstage passes) to the illogical nature of my cheating spouse; the backstabbing, the lies, the illegal activity (fraud, stealing community property), etc. In my opinion "fixing the marriage" is now a distant 3rd place to "keeping the children safe" and not having "history repeat itself". We deserve better than that.