Originally Posted by Big Bear
May not be the most tactful way to say it, but there seems to be some validity to this post. To know the problem, I believe that the process needs to start from within and go from there.
I had no choice. Every post before mine was some form of hand holding "poor baby" nonsense. This woman still has time to avoid a catastrophe. She needs to wake up before it is too late.
Some problems can be "healed from within marriage", other cannot. The poster's BF exhibits clear traits of an eventual abuser. Too much "oh, poor baby, its all his fault, but I am sure we can fix it" is what will get her into an emergency clinic with a shattered jaw two years into her marriage.
Men who are moody and verbally abusive wall bangers almost always transform into face smashing trolls a few months after the rings go on. Why would people want to urge the OP to continue walking this path?
She needs to leave him ASAP, learn to support herself and live independently, learn to value companionship much more than strength, and basically grow up.