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turnera · 02-25-2010, 07:44 PM

Bob, the point is that, if he IS having an affair, he will hear NOTHING she says and will see NOTHING she does to repair the marriage, because his every thought is on the next time he can contact the other woman. Who has to be removed from the picture so he can go through withdrawal, for the fog to clear, and realize yes, here's his wife, who has put up with it all and is still here.

But that will never happen until the OW is gone. So she needs to know one way or another if there IS another woman. If not, great, there are TONS of things she can do to get him back. But if he IS having an affair, she has to deal with the affair first and stop it.

02-25-2010, 07:44 PM	#108 (permalink)
turnera Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 15,748	Re: What to do? Need men's opinion Bob, the point is that, if he IS having an affair, he will hear NOTHING she says and will see NOTHING she does to repair the marriage, because his every thought is on the next time he can contact the other woman. Who has to be removed from the picture so he can go through withdrawal, for the fog to clear, and realize yes, here's his wife, who has put up with it all and is still here. But that will never happen until the OW is gone. So she needs to know one way or another if there IS another woman. If not, great, there are TONS of things she can do to get him back. But if he IS having an affair, she has to deal with the affair first and stop it.