turnera

nrtq, yes, there is just a unisex questionnaire. But if I recall, you're free to put your own information in there, to adapt it to your marriage; otherwise it wouldn't be such a useful tool.

And of course, it's entirely possible he's just fed up with you. That's how I've felt for the last 10 years (til I worked the MB program, though I still have residual feelings). I will never cheat, but I certainly wanted only to be away from my husband - because of HIM. But I went first, and fixed myself, and guess what? He came around and started meeting my needs. I voiced my unhappiness with his LBs - and told him I was going to leave him if things didn't change - and he stopped most of the LBs. But he wouldn't have done that if I hadn't gone first and become a better person myself. I had to give HIM a reason to want to stay with ME.