Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - i was never in love with my wife but i thought love is not that important for living

scarletblue · 03-03-2010, 08:57 AM

I feel for your situation, but I have to think to myself....how would I feel if I were your wife? How would I feel if I invested my life and love in a man who doesn't love me and is miserable with me every day. You want to talk misery? Now, THAT is misery!

It sounds to me like first of all, you need to seek help for your depression. You are wallowing in it and letting it drag your life down. You need to take charge of your feelings and decide what you're going to do. If you don't believe in divorce and are going to stay in the marriage, the you need to do what you can to make it the best it can be. Longing for something you think you can never have won't help the situation.

Is it better to love and not be loved in return, or be loved and not love in return?

03-03-2010, 08:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
scarletblue Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Washington State Posts: 455	Re: i was never in love with my wife but i thought love is not that important for liv I feel for your situation, but I have to think to myself....how would I feel if I were your wife? How would I feel if I invested my life and love in a man who doesn't love me and is miserable with me every day. You want to talk misery? Now, THAT is misery! It sounds to me like first of all, you need to seek help for your depression. You are wallowing in it and letting it drag your life down. You need to take charge of your feelings and decide what you're going to do. If you don't believe in divorce and are going to stay in the marriage, the you need to do what you can to make it the best it can be. Longing for something you think you can never have won't help the situation. Is it better to love and not be loved in return, or be loved and not love in return?