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bedlam85 · 03-03-2010, 10:23 PM

sorry i realise i am really late to this thread but my wife has just come back from her 3rd butlins weekend and the sick feeling i get when she goes still hasnt subsided.
I have explained to her that i trust her 100%, its the others who go that i dont trust. I totally accept that my wife goes to these weekends to have fun in fancy dress with her friends, thats her intention. I also know that big groups of guys go there and its not for the fancy dress costumes!
My wife tells me that her and her friends watch out for each other but i know that when she has had a drink (about three gallons of drink in the case of these weekends) she gets very sarcastic, chatty and very over-confident. This can easily be misinterpreted by drunk guys as a green light.
She arrived back on monday and i knew something was not right. she had seemed off on the phone over the weekend and missed calling me friday night which she never does. after me pushing the issue on tuesday i find out that her best friend who she goes every year with (wife of my best friend) has been having an affair with a guy for the last year that guess what? she met at butlins last year!
These weekends break more marriages than they ever make, i am now in an awful situation where i have information that will totally destroy my best friend who loves his wife to the core. I have to choose whether i force her to tell him or do it myself. no choice at all really.
I have had so many conversations with my wife about how much these weekends scare me, turns out i was dead right to be concerned. This doesnt even begin to take into account the guys who will go to any lengths to get what they want, drink spiking etc... I know this type of guy is a rare breed and can appear anywhere but it only takes one of them and a second to turn your world upside down. If my wife goes out in our local town centre i know that i am 3 minutes away and she can call anytime. When she is 7 hours down the road there is nothing i can do.
I would seriously think about asking your wife not to go anymore, or look up when next years event is and book a 'suprise' weekend away for the same dates!
I have thought for so long i was just being paranoid and really tried to change my mind about this. This week has confirmed that all my suspicions were right.
Guys know that these weekends are packed to the rafters with very drunk women who have left their partners at home and
are dressed in costumes that cover far less than they should. Put yourself in the position, as a guy knowing all this, what reason would you have for going there??

Probably not what you want to hear but this was as much to get my thoughts out of my head as to answer your question. Sorry if i have rambled, got a lot on my mind just now!

03-03-2010, 10:23 PM	#19 (permalink)
bedlam85 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2	Re: Butlins adult theme weekends - wife going sorry i realise i am really late to this thread but my wife has just come back from her 3rd butlins weekend and the sick feeling i get when she goes still hasnt subsided. I have explained to her that i trust her 100%, its the others who go that i dont trust. I totally accept that my wife goes to these weekends to have fun in fancy dress with her friends, thats her intention. I also know that big groups of guys go there and its not for the fancy dress costumes! My wife tells me that her and her friends watch out for each other but i know that when she has had a drink (about three gallons of drink in the case of these weekends) she gets very sarcastic, chatty and very over-confident. This can easily be misinterpreted by drunk guys as a green light. She arrived back on monday and i knew something was not right. she had seemed off on the phone over the weekend and missed calling me friday night which she never does. after me pushing the issue on tuesday i find out that her best friend who she goes every year with (wife of my best friend) has been having an affair with a guy for the last year that guess what? she met at butlins last year! These weekends break more marriages than they ever make, i am now in an awful situation where i have information that will totally destroy my best friend who loves his wife to the core. I have to choose whether i force her to tell him or do it myself. no choice at all really. I have had so many conversations with my wife about how much these weekends scare me, turns out i was dead right to be concerned. This doesnt even begin to take into account the guys who will go to any lengths to get what they want, drink spiking etc... I know this type of guy is a rare breed and can appear anywhere but it only takes one of them and a second to turn your world upside down. If my wife goes out in our local town centre i know that i am 3 minutes away and she can call anytime. When she is 7 hours down the road there is nothing i can do. I would seriously think about asking your wife not to go anymore, or look up when next years event is and book a 'suprise' weekend away for the same dates! I have thought for so long i was just being paranoid and really tried to change my mind about this. This week has confirmed that all my suspicions were right. Guys know that these weekends are packed to the rafters with very drunk women who have left their partners at home and are dressed in costumes that cover far less than they should. Put yourself in the position, as a guy knowing all this, what reason would you have for going there?? Probably not what you want to hear but this was as much to get my thoughts out of my head as to answer your question. Sorry if i have rambled, got a lot on my mind just now!