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63Vino · 03-06-2010, 06:51 AM

As far as cultures go, there are two different thing or dynamics as i see them anyway.. There is the openly stated idea than you get married til death blablabla, have kids and be like your neighbors... all good. Then there is the collective intelligence or progressivness of a society which brings or fosters acceptance and tolerance for other ways. Based on my life experiences I would reject the idea that north america, us in particular is "more modern", JUST the opposite. I thnk we are stuck to these ideas to the point we torture ourseves and torture our neighbors to hold that line and we are willing to go to great pains to keep to these ideas, feel ourselves failures if we dont live up to the "standard"..

You may have guessed already but i think thats all crap.

I do strongly believe in relationship and love, but i dont think that either one is measured by our adherence to this process (marriage blabla) outlined in my opening paragraph.

A functioning relationship is where two people are together, 100% open to love, honest with each other, not afraid to expose who they realy are, accepting, tolerant and forgiving.
That has NOTHING to do with marriage, its pure togetherness and love. Marriage after or if one attains that, is inconsequential.

03-06-2010, 06:51 AM	#11 (permalink)
63Vino Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: USA Posts: 655	Re: The devils As far as cultures go, there are two different thing or dynamics as i see them anyway.. There is the openly stated idea than you get married til death blablabla, have kids and be like your neighbors... all good. Then there is the collective intelligence or progressivness of a society which brings or fosters acceptance and tolerance for other ways. Based on my life experiences I would reject the idea that north america, us in particular is "more modern", JUST the opposite. I thnk we are stuck to these ideas to the point we torture ourseves and torture our neighbors to hold that line and we are willing to go to great pains to keep to these ideas, feel ourselves failures if we dont live up to the "standard".. You may have guessed already but i think thats all crap. I do strongly believe in relationship and love, but i dont think that either one is measured by our adherence to this process (marriage blabla) outlined in my opening paragraph. A functioning relationship is where two people are together, 100% open to love, honest with each other, not afraid to expose who they realy are, accepting, tolerant and forgiving. That has NOTHING to do with marriage, its pure togetherness and love. Marriage after or if one attains that, is inconsequential. __________________ DIE TO THE PAST EVERY MOMENT - TWC